mayor, I am sorry to say, 'you cant always get what you want'. BUT intimacy is sometimes accomplished with the touch of a finger tip. I do not mean, touching sexual organs but simply focusing intent. Remember the day when her finger on your shoulder was a remarkably arousing experience?
Sitting next to each other on the couch with an arm around the shoulder can be better than sex. Romance is the intimacy of paying attention to one another.
Feeling like a woman can come from the eyes,how I look at my partner imparts my feelings and conveys my thoughts. Flowers are romantic. Just because the plumbing doesnt perform on demand does not make me less feminine or less desirable, it all comes from within. If I feel like a jerk I look like a jerk. If I feel like a WOMAN even though I can not perform the sex act I AM ALL WOMAN, even fat and almost 68.
Barbara sang a song written by the Bee Gees, the words go something like this. " I am a woman in love and I will do anything I can to get you into my world and keep you within! It's a right I defend, over and over again. "
There are ways to woo, sex is just the lazy way out. After I heard the song I spent years wooing my husband every way I could think of, until he died,
Let her see the twinkle in your eye, cultivate the art of wooing her acknowledgeing her and paying attention to her and forget about what is going on with you. It has made me feel good about myself every time I think of him and us, thirty years later.
Think about what you want to happen - to keep the relationship, stay focused on the relationship and what you want it to be and your mind will figure it out to your satisfaction. maria